Shannon Philpott-Sanders

Writing, Reflecting, Teaching, Parenting

Rules for Behavior Between Siblings

Screen shot 2013-03-27 at 5.24.24 PMPublished March 2013: Mom.Me

Rules for Behavior Between Siblings in the House
How to teach your kids to get along — yes, really

Article Excerpt:

A sibling is often a blessing in disguise. He can be your best friend one moment and an archenemy the next. Sibling rivalry can get out of hand, though, when rules for behavior are not established early on. “Parents need to help their children establish rules and boundaries for how to get along with another,” says Dr. Nancy Buck, a Colorado-based developmental psychologist and author of “Peaceful Parenting.” Continue reading


March 27, 2013 Posted by | Feature Stories, Magazine Writing, Sample Work | , , , | Leave a comment

Activities to Keep Siblings From Fighting

Screen shot 2012-12-18 at 7.33.49 PMPublished December 2012: Mom.Me

Activities to Keep Siblings From Fighting
Tips to maximize teamwork and minimize rivalry

Article Excerpt:

Siblings are naturally going to bicker and battle on a regular basis, no matter how much you try to keep the peace. “It is unrealistic to expect siblings not to fight,” says Jamie Rishikof, a Massachusetts-based licensed psychologist specializing in child and adolescent therapy. “They are rivals because they are thrust into a situation of constant negotiation and sharing. They have to share mom, dad, the house, the TV and the car — and not by choice.” Continue reading

December 18, 2012 Posted by | Feature Stories, Magazine Writing, Sample Work | , , , | Leave a comment

Your Turn: Games to Foster Better Sibling Relationships

Published April 2011: eHow Family & Relationships

Your Turn: Games to Foster Better Sibling Relationships
Create a Winning Match Through Play

Article Excerpt:

A squabble over toys or a disagreement about house rules may seem pretty typical between a brother and sister. However, when the arguing escalates and disrupts home life for the entire family, it may indicate that sibling rivalry is rearing its ugly head.

According to New York-based Jane Greer, Ed.D., a nationally known marriage and family therapist and author of “What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship,” when children aren’t taught to share, it results in severe sibling rivalry. Continue reading

April 6, 2011 Posted by | Feature Stories, Magazine Writing, Sample Work | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Diary of a Wimpy Mom

A few evenings ago I took my 9 and 11-year old to see a screening of the “Diary of a Wimpy Kid.” The movie was quite entertaining with more than a fair share of references to boogers, moldy cheese and bathroom bombs.

 What made me laugh the most, though, was the chaotic household of this “wimpy” kid. He and his older brother defined sibling rivalry. They physically fought, verbally tortured each other and pranked one another constantly. At one point, one brother even peed on the other in retaliation. Continue reading

March 17, 2010 Posted by | Blog, Parenting, Reflecting | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Howdy Neighbor

After spending two weeks listening to my children fight with each other about anything and everything possible, we resorted back to a plan we adopted last summer. They became neighbors, not siblings.

 As odd and unconventional as the plan sounds, it has worked for us in the past and evolved out of desperation. My son and daughter are at ages (9 and 11) where they both want independence, they don’t want to be bothered with a younger brother or older sister, and they don’t seem to mesh as well as they did when they were younger. Continue reading

January 3, 2010 Posted by | Blog, Parenting, Reflecting | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Big Wheel Keep on Turnin’

100_0912As young children, we often live in the shadows of our siblings. We tend to tag along with the older ones, mimicking their likes and dislikes. We dote on the younger ones, trying to play mom while tending to their wants and needs.

As the middle child, clearly suffering from middle child syndrome, I always felt part of the gang but clearly suffered from an identity crisis. I was Dana’s younger sister. I was Molly’s older sister. I was the middle one, the only one without red hair. In reality, though, I just wanted to be Shannon.

During a cool, fall day in 1980, I claimed my identity, my independence, and launched the first of many adventures that sparked the growth of my stubborn and precocious personality. Continue reading

September 10, 2009 Posted by | Blog, Reflecting, Teaching | , , , , | 6 Comments