Although the sun is shining bright and summertime is a fresh reality for your child, many schools are ramping up for school sessions to begin in mid-August. At a time when your child is still focused on sleeping in late, hanging out at the pool with friends and camping in the backyard, the thought of returning to school can spark anxiety, fear and the back-to-school blues. Transition times are unsettling for the entire family, notes Anne Maxwell, a Colorado-based family therapist. "Even if the transition is to a known experience or event, it is a time of stress," Maxwell said. Many children respond to changes in routine by acting out, refusing to adopt a routine or withdrawing emotionally. As a parent, it's often a challenge to get your child into a school routine and keep the household positive despite the looming back to school thoughts and activities. Read the Rest of the Article Here
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When You’re the New Stepparent of a Teenager
Published July 2011: ParentUSACity.com When You're the New Stepparent of a Teenager Article Excerpt: Finding the perfect mix for a blended family takes time. Just as it takes time to warm up to a new friend or neighbor, stepchildren need time to absorb the changes in the family and to evaluate how to approach relationships. And when the stepchild is a teen, an extra set of challenges comes into play. According to Patricia Schell Kuhlman, a counselor with special interest in attachment and bonding, relationships with an outside parent are complicated at any age. With teens, she says, “Going through the initial immersion stage with adolescent stepchildren is very challenging because their normal development needs for separation and independence from the family are in conflict with the need of the stepfamily to form new family bonds and relationships.” An instantaneous bond may not happen, especially when a teen feels resentment toward parents and stepparents following a divorce or death. Therefore, the relationship must develop with input from both the teen and stepparent. Learning how to navigate the challenges requires patience and flexibility from both sides. Read the rest of the story here. - Shannon Philpott
Allowing Allowance
Allowing Allowance Teaching Children Responsibility One Dollar at a Time Article Excerpt: When Danny Payne was a child, he would go to the store with his parents and find a toy he just had to have. Although many parents give in and fork over the cash to please their children, Payne's parents reminded him of the long list of chores posted on the fridge that would allow him to earn the money to buy the toy. "I can remember that mowing the lawn paid $1.25, which I'm sure violated child labor laws because our Midwest lawn was huge," said Payne, a California-based certified financial planner. After a week or two of mowing the lawn and checking off chores on that list, Payne began to value his earnings and decided that the toy he just had to have wasn't necessarily worth the money. Payne learned a valuable lesson about managing his finances and prioritizing his wants and needs.
Destination: Mom-Cation
A mom often spends her days tripping over action figures, soothing her infant's emerging teeth and defusing the tantrums of a toddler. Exhaustion sets in, and, with a little luck, she may get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep. to bless her tired bones. The fast-paced life of a mother can run down even the most fit and healthy mom if she doesn't make time for herself. Ramani Durvasula, a Los Angeles-based family therapist and mother, notes that mothering has turned into a competitive sport in our society. The result is burnout and "suboptimal" mothering.
Preparing for a Proposal
Preparing for a Proposal Get Ready, Get Set, Propose? Article Excerpt: Before Susanne Alexander said "I do," she thought a lot about what she would do as a wife. But she didn't do it alone. She and her future husband evaluated their health, finances and family plans together to ensure they could successfully pull off a long-term marriage commitment. It took planning to get it right. "We began as friends, built a romantic relationship, prayed together and talked through many topics together along the way," said Alexander, a relationship coach and author of "All-In-One Marriage Prep." "We spent time writing down what we wanted a marriage to look like to ensure we had similar visions," she said. And then, he proposed. Couples often envision living happily ever after once one or the other pops the question, but in reality, planning and evaluating your compatibility and emotional readiness for marriage is crucial before the proposal. Read the rest at http://www.shannonphilpott.com
Finding the Perfect Mix for a Blended Family
Published April 2011: eHow Family & Relationships Finding the Perfect Mix for a Blended Family How to Achieve Harmony While Embracing Differences Article Excerpt: When Cherie and Steve Miller married 10 years ago, they knew it would be a challenge merging their existing families. Cherie had three sons, ages 12, 18 and 20, and Steve… Continue reading Finding the Perfect Mix for a Blended Family
The Hidden Veggie
The Hidden Veggie Stocking Up On a Healthy Lifestyle Article Excerpt: When her children were young, Antoinette Kuritz made sure they ate their veggies. In fact, she made sure they grew them, too. "We planted a huge garden, and they each had their own colander," said Kuritz, a California-based public relations specialist. "For each meal, they went outside and picked the veggie they wanted, picked how much they were prepared to eat, washed and drained it, and put it on their plates." For the Kuritz family, vegetables were a natural part of mealtime. However, in many households today, the closest thing to a veggie is a French fry. Adding much-needed nutrients to your kids' meals may be a challenge when high sugar, salt and fatty foods are conveniently within reach, but it's a necessity for maintaining their health. Before you'll have any success, though, you'll have to get to the root of the veggie stigma as a family.
Your Turn: Games to Foster Better Sibling Relationships
Your Turn: Games to Foster Better Sibling Relationships Create a Winning Match Through Play Article Excerpt: A squabble over toys or a disagreement about house rules may seem pretty typical between a brother and sister. However, when the arguing escalates and disrupts home life for the entire family, it may indicate that sibling rivalry is rearing its ugly head. According to New York-based Jane Greer, Ed.D., a nationally known marriage and family therapist and author of "What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship," when children aren't taught to share, it results in severe sibling rivalry. Read the rest of the story at http://www.shannonphilpott.com
Putting a Pet to Rest
Article Excerpt: When Jodi Caroland's daughter was 3, she yelped out a blood-curdling cry in the middle of the night. Caroland, a licensed professional counselor in Troy, Michigan, rushed to her daughter's bedside and found her hysterically crying over Smimmy, her goldfish, who was floating at the top of his bowl. Understanding Grief The loss of human life is often viewed as more traumatic than the loss of a pet. However, the loss of a pet can be just as devastating for its owners. "There is a difference in how other people perceive this loss, in particular those who do not understand the human-animal bond, and that may be difficult for the family who lost a pet," said Linda Lawrence, clinical instructor and veterinary social work services coordinator at Michigan State University in Lansing. Read the rest of the story at http://www.shannonphilpott.com
Paying it Forward for Spring Break
Published March 2011: eHow Family & Relationships Paying it Forward for Spring Break Pitching in for a good cause teaches important lessons Article Excerpt: As a clinical counselor, Susan Fee listens daily as parents talk about wanting their children to be more appreciative, selfless, independent and caring. "I often ask, 'What opportunities are you giving… Continue reading Paying it Forward for Spring Break
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