Disagreements are a way of life: It's inevitable that you and your spouse will verbally disagree, and just as inevitable that your child will come into contact with one of those disagreements. However, when disagreements turn into arguments that consist of yelling and name-calling, it can drastically influence your child’s well being. “Arguing traumatizes children for several reasons,” said JeaNette Goates Smith, Florida-based licensed marriage and family therapist. “Parents are often out of control when they argue, and it's scary for a child to see a parent out of control.” To reduce the negative effects on children, learn how to respectfully disagree, rather than argue.